Do you have a nickname? Has someone given you a “pet name” that represents your actions or behavior? Recently a friend said she looked at me and thought, “she’s like the Fountain of Life!” I have been called many things in my life, but this one was a bit more unusual. I decided to give this more thought. I always find it interesting how people view others.

The word fountain has a few definitions I found intriguing: “A principle source or origin”; “a reservoir for a liquid to be supplied continuously.” And, of course, life can be defined as “existence, relationships or activity in general,” “a manner of living,” “a source of vitality,” or “liveliness or animation.”

“A kind heart is a fountain of gladness, making everything in its vicinity freshen into smiles.” — Washington Irving

Put these definitions together and you get “a source of vitality and liveliness” and “origin (or provider) of existence, relationships and activity.” I see liquid as a continuous fluid substance of movement in, around, through and between—in this case, moving with flow through life, its obstacles and triumphs.

Thinking about moving this way, “in, around, through and between what life presents and expresses,” is a fun way to see what someone else is witnessing compared to how I feel I’m living! What are the characteristics that shape this kind of living?

Curiosity. Genuine interest in what makes things work, what makes people move or be moved. The joy of discovery.

Intelligence. Being curious leads to gaining information and knowledge. This increases our mental capacity, awareness of our surroundings and of others.

Relatable. Being curious, and increasing our knowledge makes us more relatable to others. When we can relate to others we gain more opportunities to connect in harmony and congruent existence.

Confidence. All of the above builds over time as we question things we don’t understand or want to be more clear on. Development of what we believe in increases our confidence. People are drawn to others that seem to have that air of internal authority or direction.

Core Centered. When your belief system is strong, and you build your sense of confidence in what you do and who you are, your core being is more grounded, centered. There is less rocky or erratic behavior.

Listen. Really listen to what others are saying. The way people talk, what they say, how they move (or don’t move) can tell you a lot about them. Listening breeds trust. It enables an exchange of energy to happen.

“Be like the fountain that overflows, not like the cistern that merely contains.” — Paulo Coelho

I have a few key principles that have helped me expand my rhythm of life over the years. I used to be very “shy” and didn’t feel I knew much and therefore didn’t speak when in meetings or group conversation (especially when others were very opinionated). What I did do was listen. Listening gave me insight and information to formulate my own opinion. Over time I realized I did have ideas that could be beneficial to the conversations and be part of development.

Another principle is non-judgment. Acceptance of where others are “at” in their lives, how they think or feel is key in the fountain (or flow) of life. You don’t have to like what someone else stands for or how they live, but it is important to recognize the differences and keep respectful boundaries and understanding. Ask more questions to understand an individual’s opinion or stand on an issue. This attitude (or quality) will build the trust of others in you. It allows people to be more authentic when they know they don’t have to “defend” themselves.

Smile. No matter how you feel on the inside. This isn’t for the closest people to you, necessarily. It’s important to have a safe space to let your hair down—with family or friends who are accepting and supportive. The smiling is for those who have momentary encounters with you. There is no reason to project your fears, concerns, anger, frustration or disappointment toward them. Being the light or bringing the light is a choice. I have found it is one that pays big dividends. Smiling is contagious and looks much better than a frown.

Consideration. Sense another’s need and fill it. Simple things. Opening a door, helping to carry items, making life a little bit easier for a moment or a lifetime!

Hugs. They bring comfort, joy, hope, happiness, peace, love, warmth and bonding.

Love. Simple, unconditional love. Be the essence of love in all you do.

These principles have given me a life filled with friends, associates, family, loved ones, clients and more. How do you see yourself? How do others see you? How does this add to your life?

“There is a Fountain of Youth: It is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of the people you love.” — Sophia Loren